Even though the world has failed, the healing capacity of the human experience has no limits. I can never know your pain, but I can tell you about mine. Together, we may live in communion, and change the failures of the world.
Eight years ago, I was followed into a public restroom in
There is one book that I found to be tremendously helpful, and I think everyone should read it, rape survivor or not: After Silence, Rape and My Journey Back, by Nancy Venable Raine.
Before Raine published the book, close friends said things to her like, ''Let's face it, no one wants to hear about such terrible things.'' And, ''I just can't imagine how you can write about something so . . . so very personal.'' And, ''Shall we get off rape to something . . . agreeable?'' Shame presupposes wrongdoing. The things we do not talk about are the things we have done wrong, right? A DUI? A divorce? An F in a class. She writes: ''The sense that I was responsible for the rape supported a more important belief, one that I could not give up, although it had been severely damaged. It was the belief that I could control what happened to me, that my actions had a bearing on the outcome of my life.''
The vast topic of rape is something I occasionally talk to friends about. I never know what they have been through. Without it becoming my identity, I hope that my openness about this can somehow help others who have suffered with the aftermath of a rape, - -people who understand that it is the terror of the violence and the power and the robbing of one’s personhood that is the story of rape, or repeat rapes. It is about being told: "you are not human." Eight years later, I remember dealing with the anxiety, panic, depression, helplessness, and confusion, - - but I usually think of the people who do not have access to help, or who never got help in time. I on the other hand, have been given a new life.
We all need to be part of an open conversation about this social demon, in order to save the lives of those suffering in silence. Inspired by Victor’s lecture, today I am reaching out to you.
2 comments:
Thanks for sharing your story. You sound like a very strong person. I am glad to hear that you have put the pieces of your life together and are doing much better. I’ll definitely check out that book too. By any chance have you heard about Biography channels new real-life series "I Survived"? It focuses on how individuals overcame unbelievable circumstances, such as surviving domestic violence and rape. Each episode contains at least one rape story. I think victims of such abuse will find it highly cathartic and inspiring. It's definitely a show that empowers the viewer to keep moving forward. It airs Mondays at 9pm/8C. Check out http://www.biography.com/isurvived/ for more info. I'm proud to be working with Bio on spreading awareness. I hope you find the show to be as inspirational as I do. Does this sound like a show that would interest you?
Powerful story Kate. Thank you for speaking openly and giving hope to those who are also in search of healing. You are one amazing woman.
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